One of the ongoing issues we can observe and experience in life is the repeated 'war of the sexes'.
We see it so many different forms .. of left-wing and right-wing politicians1 arguing over the virtues of privatisation of public infrastructure, nasty divorce settlements, inequality of pay for men and women, lower life expectancy for men and particularly black or indigenous men, and so on.
It seems to me however that the ongoing issues surrounding sexual harmony is one of the most important for the majority of the populace.
As explained, the failure to understand the nature of 'masculine' and 'feminine' results in "immensely destructive" behaviours, both personally and socially.
Understanding the seemingly incompatible masculine and feminine sexual needs and behaviours is easy and productive when we apply the TOAn concepts as detailed on the Belief Institute website.
Primarily, males seek intimacy and meaning through the physical (via the physical pleasure of sex, being outdoors, competition, hierarchy), while females seek and value intimacy and meaning through 'psychical' aspects (namely, emotions, communication, connections, context, community, sharing, groups, harems/polygamy2). This understanding fully explains why boys and men are more orientated towards pornography than girls and women - in fact the deeper understanding fully accounts for all gender stereotypes and differences, all the way down, and all the way up.
The downside to not understanding the differences in sexual energies are highly visible, and underscore so much of what is 'wrong' in the world today.
There's virtually no human behaviour that can't be traced back to a lack of understanding of these energies and focuses.
Recently in Australia we saw a high-profile CEO (of David Jones) resign over sexual harassment and the share price drop as a result. Real-world outcomes for the societal lack of understanding.
Similarly, news channels report that
"The Taliban publicly flogged and then executed a pregnant Afghan widow by shooting her three times in the head for alleged adultery, police said on Monday. Bibi Sanubar, 35, was kept in captivity for three days before she was shot dead in a public trial on Sunday by a local Taliban commander in the Qadis district of the rural western province Badghis."3
It's this fear of the feminine that stifles creativity, solutions and ease in our world. It's the fear of the feminine that sees the high degrees of violence, the punishment and fear of homosexuality4.
Fear of the feminine is what it's all about ... the violence, the misogyny, the inequalities, the poverty - all can be traced back to the fear of the feminine: "letting go", being creative, finding solutions, communicating with 'alien others' (other tribes, groups, religions), sharing our knowledge and wealth5.
- 1. As explained in detail in my writing, left-wing political parties are biased towards the 'feminine', while right-wing are 'masculine' in focus and policy)
- 2. Despite the illegality, "big love" is still practiced by some religious groups, and has been common in various cultures and historical periods. Note however that the reverse situation - of many males for one woman - has not been similarly practiced.
- 3. Source: ABC News
- 4. Anecdotal evidence is that many men fear receiving anal intercourse, while openly or secretly coveting the desire to engage in anal intercourse with their female partners. Perhaps an online poll on those who have experienced anal sex (in conjunction with their gender) would be instructive to this article!
- 5. I seem to recall someone calculating that there's enough wealth in our Western world to easily banish hunger and poverty in the developing world